[please don’t use this for big memories that might be the tip of an iceberg. You are best releasing those with the support of an experienced therapist!]
My childhood horrible memory
I used to shudder when I remembered a simple incident at school. It was junior school and a group of us in the science lab had accidentally broken a mercury thermometer. Well, we really enjoyed playing with the mercury. It was fascinating seeing it running around on the desk and our hands.
My goodness, we got into a load of trouble. It was quite a shock for young me. We didn’t realise it was a dangerous substance at all. Being shouted at and severely told off was something that came out of the blue and left me feeling deeply misjudged, ashamed and confused. I think we even got letters home as well.
For many years, whenever something triggered that memory I would feel really horrible again. It took me right back to being that child again.
These days it isn’t a problem – I am fully OK about it.
I was on a work training course around 2002 when we were taught an NLP technique to release unpleasant memories such as this one. The purpose was to detach from events so we could deal with them more rationally at work, of course! However, this mercury incident came immediately to mind for some reason so that was what I tried it out on.
We were told in our minds to
- Run though the scene again and note the feelings, colours etc.
- Run the scene backwards.
- Turn it into black and white and run it forwards and backwards.
- Make the characters into cartoons, continue making it larger than life and so exaggerated that you can no longer take it seriously
- Finally run it though again as you did originally in full technicolour. The emotion should have gone, if not repeat again.
There are many variations of this that I have discovered since but it still works well.
It is quick and easy to use for anything that makes us feel uncomfortable and then smile about it and feel gentle acceptance for whatever it was.
Do we need to do this for everything?
It isn’t always necessary to do this. Two people can go through the same experience and feel completely different afterwards. Sometimes we have a laugh and genuinely forget incidents, even big ones. Other times the most trivial thing, like my example above, can cause us distress for years.
Psychosomatic ailments are a real thing. I’ve got a number of books that list symptoms and what might be going on emotionally/thought patterns to trigger them. One early and well-known book is Louise Hay’s ‘You can Heal Your Life’, for example, rigidity in how we process life may lead to stiffness such as arthritis developing for some.
The bio-resonance system I use (e-Lybra9) works away under the scenes to take the negative power out of things that are causing us to lose energy and impacting our current life. It does this because these incidents are stored in the body and so may accumulate to cause physical imbalances.
The more fluid we are in life, flowing through it, the better. If we put up barriers and bury or box stuff away that we don’t want to look then gradually that is building a burden that will drain us.
Tapping or EFT is another wonderful way to shift emotional and even physical issues. It is a subject in its own right and another wonderful self-help tool.
Clear those unpleasant memories
I have attended public speaking training where we were told to tune into the horrible times in our lives and bring out the emotion again in order to make for a powerful, emotion-packed, speech. We all love listening to people who speak with passion but I do wonder what toll this has on the speakers who tour around making the same speech over and over.
I do think one has to be careful just how much of the actual emotion from the event one retains. If in doubt it is better cleared and forgotten rather than revisited regularly. We can always call on a more generic experience for the speaking gigs!
Next time you spot a small memory that makes you shudder, please give what I described a try, you will find it fascinating.
I love simple things like this!