[please don’t use this for big memories that might be the tip of an iceberg. You are best releasing those with the support of an experienced therapist!]
Memories that make us shudder
I used to shudder when I remembered an incident from junior school. A group of us in the science lab had accidentally broken a mercury thermometer. We really enjoyed playing with the mercury. It was fascinating to see how it ran around on the desk and our hands, not quite liquid and not solid either. We had no idea how toxic mercury is to our bodies!
My goodness, we got into a load of trouble! It was quite a shock for young me. The telling off was quite inappropriate really, in hindsight. We didn’t realise it was a dangerous substance at all. Being shouted at and severely told off was something that came out of the blue and left me feeling deeply misjudged, ashamed and confused. I think we even got letters home as well.
For many years, whenever something triggered that memory I would go right back to feeling really horrible again, I went back to being that child again.
In life, these things happen to us periodically. It can be something big and truly horrible or as seemingly trivial as this but it gets under our skin and stored as something that we don’t want to go anywhere near. The more of these we can clear away so we can trawl through our memories without getting hooked in to them the better.
Techniques to wipe out the ‘shudder’
NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming
I was on a work training course around 2002 when we were taught an NLP technique to release unpleasant memories such as this one. The purpose was to detach from events so we could deal with them more rationally at work, of course! However, this mercury incident came immediately to mind for some reason so that was what I tried it out on.
We were told in our minds to
- Run though the scene again and note the feelings, colours etc.
- Run the scene backwards.
- Turn it into black and white and run it forwards and backwards.
- Make the characters into cartoons, continue making it larger than life and so exaggerated that you can no longer take it seriously
- Finally run it though again as you did originally in full technicolour. The emotion should have gone, if not repeat again.
There are many variations of this that I have discovered since but it still works well.
It is quick and easy to use for anything that makes us feel uncomfortable and then smile about it and feel gentle acceptance for whatever it was.
Tapping or EFT is another wonderful way to shift emotional and even physical issues. It is a subject in its own right and another wonderful self-help tool.
I know this has been used very effectively to assist people with severe post-traumatic stress disorder such as was created in Ruwander and war situations. In those cases, it is crucial to work with an experienced practitioner to make sure you stay safe and have the right support.
The therapies I work with will often help release/clear memories without having to work with each one individually. The ones linked with a particular ailment or pattern in life get released as part of the healing work.
Do we need to clear everything?
It is only necessary to clear the things that you realise are impacting negatively on your life in some way. Keep a note if something crops up in order to clear it when you get time.
The magnitude of the experience doesn’t seem to matter. Two people can go through the same experience and feel completely differently about it afterwards. Something minor may happen at a bad time or shocks us, like my example above, and it stays with us.
Psychosomatic ailments can be triggered by experiences that we refuse to clear or store in our bodies because we don’t know how to deal with them.
There are lots of books that list symptoms and what might be going on emotionally/thought patterns to trigger them. One early, and well-known, book is Louise Hay’s ‘You can Heal Your Life’. In this, for example, rigidity in how we process life may lead to stiffness such as arthritis later.
The bio-resonance system I use (e-Lybra9) works away under the scenes to take the negative power out of things that are causing us to lose energy and are actively impacting our current life. These incidents are stored in the body and so may accumulate to cause physical imbalances.
The more fluidly we flow through life, the better. If we put up barriers and bury or box stuff away that we don’t want to deal with then gradually that is building a burden that will drain us.
Speaking about the memories
I attended public speaking training where we were told to tune into the horrible times in our lives and bring out the emotion again in order to make for a powerful, emotion-packed, speech.
When we listen to a speaker and he/she evokes emotions within us through the passion used it is enjoyable, we go on the journey with them. I do wonder what toll this has on speakers who tour around making the same speech over and over again.
What stories do you tell over and over because they grab the audience and get a positive response? Do take note and make sure you aren’t deepening anything unpleasant.
Be careful just how much of the true emotion from the event, if any, is retained. If in doubt, it is better cleared and forgotten rather than revisited regularly. We can always call on acting skills and draw on a more generic experience for the story telling!
Next time you spot a small memory that makes you shudder, please give what I described a try.
I can always help out with my services if you want to make some big changes.